The Dos and Don’ts of dating that I have all stepped upon. Matthew Hussey

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jWHpIP1-kUI

I am 30, and I have never dated anyone. I don’t feel ashamed about it. After spending too much time in the physics department and working in the tech realm, I almost forget about my being female.

As for the concept of “dating,” I’m not really sure what it means. Does it involve grabbing coffee, going for a walk, or working on homework together while our hearts beat fast?

So, when I went on a “hangout” on a dating app with a British boy — what I imagined to be someone like the gentlemanly Eddie Redmayne — uhh, no. The guy who appeared was chewing gum, five minutes late, with a US accent, and then it was his turn to judge me.

Apparently, I never knew how to peacefully convey that I was raped to my date for the first time. But hey, I insist that I don’t want to sleep with you on the first date, at least if I’m not too tired.

A female friend suggested, “You should really read some dating books to enhance your dating skills.” So I did. Today, I spent two hours reading a dating book from Matthew Hussey, which tells women how to “get the guy.”

I must say I felt slightly uncomfortable about his wording. “The” doesn’t exist for me, and how women CANNOT DO in dating — 1. ask questions about a sense of insecurity, 2. talk about an ex. 3. I forgot.

Well, I did all of them. I just don’t think there should be a flag saying, “Oh no, you can’t talk about this,” but rather, a more genuine interaction, like “Hey, how are you doing today?” or “Wow, is that what you made?”

All these little things add up to what we call life. I just need someone like that. As for Matthew’s guidance, thanks, but no thanks. Maybe in the next life when I am a guy.