How would you rate me, from 1 to 10?
I asked a friend how he’d rate me as a female, scaling from 1 to 10.
“9. You’ve got your own thinking system, style. And you have a bearing of a well-educated person.”
“Highly appreciated. Thank you.”
“But I never knew you cared about your appearance? How so?”
Well well, that traces back to my brother coming home last weekend.
He has been with his first girlfriend for 1.5 years. And he was trying to “push me to the right track”, aka to have a boyfriend, by using the dating app he used.
As he manifested a persona of me on the dating profile, I somehow felt like……the logic was maybe right for him, but not me.
Because he said, “look, you are already 30 years old. All the good ones were taken when they were at high school or university. At your stage, don’t be that picky.”
“And, don’t let guys know that you’ve never dated. That will freak them out because they’ll think what problems might you have.”
Right. I understand. Even my psychiatrist agreed.
But hey! I AM THE ONE WHO LIVED IN 7 COUNTRIES AND SURVIVED GREAT ACCIDENTS.
I was just trying to establish my own life before I am ready to welcome someone. And I think, if he’s the one, he’ll be there.
“No, that’s fairy tale. You have to go out first.” Said my brother, as if he was 1000 years old.
No, I don’t negotiate. I try to build my life by myself, and I will adopt my own kid. And when I told my psychiatrist that many of the friends in Europe were raised up by single parents, especially single mothers. They seemed to be not bothered at all — — — or actually enjoying it.
“You have to be ready with yourself, and only then can you be ready with a partner. Even if this is the case, I still feel no need to stay with the guy. So I left, and raised the kid by myself. And I am happy. I just don’t need to be in a romantic relationship.” Said one of my friends’ mom, or maybe two.
And my friends are so close with their moms — — — closer than most of the Asian families I saw, including mine.
My psychiatrist seem awe-dropped. “Wow.” Perhaps because she herself is a mom, but with a partner, and unheard these experiences.
